Hi,
Content Warning: This advice is counterintuitive
As an executive function coach, I usually talk about getting things done. Working in small steps, keeping your goal visible, celebrating progress. I help you find your goal, your why, and the path there.
Not today. Today is about listening to your intuition, your "Knowing," and letting it decide when it's the right time to do something.
I've shared before that I live with generalized anxiety disorder. Over the years I've tried a lot of things to manage it. But there was always one thing niggling at me that I knew I should do, and just couldn't bring myself to: a dedicated time each day for stillness, breathing, and reflection.
I knew it would help. I still couldn't get myself there. I "didn't have the time," I'd sworn off mindfulness and meditation after past attempts failed, and I worried the emotions that came up might be too much to sit with.
Then, a few weeks ago, my “Knowing” led me to it. It suddenly felt like the right thing to do. I was able to set my doubts and fears aside. And I've had a 10-minute daily practice going for weeks now.
My point isn't "wait around for divine intervention." It's that when friction feels really, really high, take that as information, not failure. It might just mean it isn't the right time yet. Give it time, and often that friction eases on its own. And that's when the hard thing stops feeling so hard.
So many of us were wired to push through, to grind toward the goal no matter the resistance. That may have served us well for a long time. But there's a point in life where pushing through stops being useful and starts costing us more than it gives back.
What if, instead, we let friction be a cue to pause? To wait for more ease before we try again?
Turns out, that's not giving up. It's a real recipe for success.
What's something you've been trying to put in place for yourself that's meeting too much friction? What would it look like to let that go to the back burner for a while?
Warmly,
Erin