You probably think you’re good at this

Hi

You’ve heard me talk about emotional regulation in my newsletters, so you probably have a general sense of what it means. If a definition is helpful, here it is: emotional regulation is your ability to notice, make sense of, and adjust your emotional reactions so you can respond to what’s in front of you, especially when stress is high.

When it’s working well, relationships feel stronger, your physical and mental health are great, and you have a deeper sense of satisfaction with your life.

It also shows up in the everyday stuff. Think about the days when a tough conversation leaves you unable to start anything, or when frustration makes it impossible to decide what to do first. When you’re emotionally steady, planning, prioritizing, and following through get noticeably easier. When you’re not, they’re often the first things to slip.

I came across an emotional regulation test on Psychology Today that gives a useful snapshot of how you’re doing. It’s worth a few minutes, and I’d love to hear what you notice.

If your score isn’t what you expected, please don’t despair. Most of us were never taught how to name or manage our emotions as kids or young adults. Many of us are figuring it out now, in the middle of full lives. It’s hard work, but it’s well worth it.

Warmly,

Erin